Empowerment

Growing Pains

In a world full of so much uncertainty, the older you get the more pain you obtain,

even through the rain its sometimes hard to stay sane.

In a world full of so much uncertainty the more I learn of the birds and the bees, the more I can see it doesn’t obtain to just me.

There is a generation today that praises  flings and things it brings. But all it produces is situationships.

Yes. I said situationships ; a relationship thats not really a realationship, based on circumstantial situations that haven’t played out yet to be a friendship or commitment. The dictionary version to a person, when one finds themselves in a situation with someone else without commitment.

No it’s not a side hoe, but everything goes and it doesn’t have a title but there’s the feeling of love there.

Yes I said feeling the one that keeps tingling in your body sending chills down your spine saying you’re all mine.

Right?…..                 Wrong.

Yes it feels like love. I said it FEELS like love.  Fake  love but not a real love a fictional love that lasts only about a day, a week, a month, maybe even a year. To be clear , this is the definition of this generation.

You see when you find yourself in a situationship it produces growing pains. These pains won’t substain the whole in your heart. So it would be best to part, to be smart about your growing pains…

You see it may be time to part ways and recognize your growing pains. The older you get the more you can see that whole in your  heart should never part from a REAL love.

Depression, Anxiety , Loneliness, and Overthinking produces growing pains that stain your heart to find the worse kind … of love. But what you want is that Jesus type of love.

A love that lasts past the ages of time, a love that will shine through the waves of uncertainty, a love that will carry your burdens and never be shipwrecked .

You want someone to sail the seas with ,  hopping on a boat to every nation ,  flying to a  a paradise location  domesticated,  no matter the destination.

You see these growing pains… They are learning to simmer down because God is the winner now. He’s the tylenol I take, as I realize the people in my life can be so very fake.

But He never dissapoints  ….. I talk to Him  like a friend and  slowly He takes the pain away.

 

 

 

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Blocking Blessings!

I felt it in my spirit to tell you to stop blocking your blessings.

You can block your blessings by holding on to relationships that no longer serve you. Relationships that are restricting your growth, and  relationships that are toxic.

By holding on to the old you, holding on to the past and holding on to the memories of who they used to be.

You can block your blessings by holding on to  the potential of who you think they will become,instead of realizing who they are now. Reality versus Fantasy is a dangerous game because you’re holding onto the dream instead of the actual person.

Your holding on to the things that made you happy. That alcohol addiction , that weed addiction, that cigarette addiction, that porn addiction, that pill addiction, that food addiction, or even that love addiction. If its unhealthy and it doesn’t align with the Word of God then its Got To Go!

If its no longer serving you or helping you emotionally,mentally, or spiritually then it can’t help you physically in your real life. We are all made to be like Christ in His image and God loves you waaaaayyyyyyyyyy to much for you to stay in that box that you’re in.

You can block your blessings by shrinking back into that circle of friendship that you used to be comfortable in and  the box that others had you in , instead of stretching yourself and allowing yourself to grow . Stop allowing yourself to feel the need or pressure to shrink back into who you used to be.

I serve notice today.

I want to serve notice to the old you. So that you can begin to embrace the NEW You. I serve notice on the enemy! The reason why you’re going through what your going through is because Satan knows who you are about to become. And the enemy will work overtime to try and stop your success, your dreams and your vision.

Don’t let the enemy have a say in your life. Speak life over yourself. Encourage yourself, find what motivates you , that podcast,that biblestudy, that pastor, or that group and you will see how God can turn everything around for you.

I pray  God starts to break the generational pressure and generational curses in your family, in your relationships, and in your marriages that you will be able to grow and be used by God in amazing ways.

Always remember I love you and I believe you have Endless Potential . Stay encouraged friend.

 

Empowerment

Is Your Love On Clearance?

Lately I have realized that I have put my love on clearance. What I mean by that is  I have succumbed to the lowest percentage of love given and been content with it.

I  have put my love on clearance by accepting the bare minimum from people who I know and love. I have accepted the sorriness of  effort given in every way.

I have put my love on clearance by going out of my way to make other feel comfortable and expect nothing in return. Many nights there for others but having no one listen to my cry.

I have put my love on clearance by teaching others how to treat me. Mean may seem uncompassionate but I was ever so green to know to lean on the fake. Its really crazy ow people will misuse you. Truth is, they can give the bare minimum and expect everything and then some in return.

I have put my love on clearance by accepting the pain and strain of  those near me and saying nothing. I’v become numb to the pain in my heart and have accepted that this is just another way of life.

I have put my love on clearance by accepting no text backs and one-sided relationships. If its just me then its not a relationship right?

I have put my love on clearance by letting friends become wishy washy and still accepting them. I haven’t watched my inner self and realized how it affected me.

I have put my love on clearance by creating a sense of apathy for myself. I’ve laid my heart down on the line for others expecting nothing in return, saving them from their pits of despair and anguish.

I’ve put my love on clearance by putting my heart for sale and selling it  to the lowest bidder. There was no more negotiating this,  it was torn into rags and all there was left were the tags .

But the rags of my heart were greater than I ever knew was possible. Undependable, unsustainable , unfathomable, imaginable greater than I ever knew how to mend.

So I took a dose of Jesus to numb the pain and all there was left was a stain. A crimson stain that washed all the rain, away in my heart and oneday the sun came out shining its light ever so bright .

I didn’t want to fight, I just wanted you to know that night may come……But joy comes in the morning.

Empowerment

*Cue Madea’s Voice “ALL MY LIFE I HAD TO FIGHT “

I dream of a day when my worries and stress will leave, when all I can do is dream of the day that I’ll be able to relieve the pressure in my head that’s increasing in my brain flushing the pain away .

But How sway?!

How can I be stress free in today’s society?

Instagram can you help me? Twitter can you @ me? I’m lost in a whirlwind of  stress entangling me more and more past my insecurities and tying me down to the ground.

Vision where did you go ? Why did you leave me?

Finding life  and peace of mind is hard to find. Sometimes I  need a break, to  shake back in life and fade away from the fake.

In this season, I’m learning that over time people show  you their true colors. Friends come for a season but they always teach you a reason to guard your heart. Watch who you  trust  because putting certain levels on them  can  bust the trust you’ve given. But a snake is a snake ,always fake , it only changes it outward appearance. So stop putting your love on clearance.

 

Maya Angelou said it best.  “When people show you who they are….Believe them. The first time.”

Learning not to be a fool, but to use the tool of wisdom. Each day you learn and grow, so you can be  able to have your mind flow with peace and tranquility.

Nomaste. Be great.