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Keep that same energy!

I feel like I give everyone so much attention and I pour soooooo much of my energy into other people.  And I don’t even get any of the same energy back not even remotely.WHY THOUGH?

Why do we go out of our way for others and they don’t even remotely go out of the way for us?People don’t even realize half the stuff you really do for them. So why do you do it?

I have learned that true intentionality is putting yourself out there. But why stick your neck out for others when theirs no reciprocity? Why use the energy to bring positivity if its never appreciated?

The sad truth is you have to have boundaries. The sad truth is that you have to protect your energy. Protect your mind and your heart. Without boundaries we can’t have peace. The truth is we have to know when to walk away from things that no longer serve us. You have to pray and ask God to release toxic people from your life.

The thing about toxins is that nothing ever grows from it. So know how to recognize the signs and when your spirit is no longer being edified through that friendship or relationship. This is key. Because your friends and relationships should be equally yoked.  The real meaning of equally yoked is when two oxen hold each other up.A yoke is a wooden bar that joins two oxen to each other and to the burden they pull. An “unequally yoked” team has one stronger ox and one weaker, or one taller and one shorter. The weaker or shorter ox would walk more slowly than the taller, stronger one, causing the load to go around in circles. When oxen are unequally yoked, they cannot perform the task set before them. Instead of working together, they are at odds with one another. If one oxen is bigger,taller and doing more  the pulley won’t go anywhere it actually travels in a full circle. So then you have two oxen not going anywhere in life.

Your relationships are the same. If there’s an unequal balance and your doing all the work. You won’t go any where. You will find yourself at the same spot over and over and over again. You don’t want that.

Protect your energy and protect your peace.


If you so happen to be any shade of Brown…. Here is what you must know!

After spending my weekend here in D.C. I feel so honored to be an African American. I know it’s unheard of because of how many disadvantages have been presented to our race. But I believe that it’s a blessing to be brown. Why do you think people tan?

I believe in brown people of different shades who will love each other, stand in solidarity when challenged and inspire the next generation. It doesn’t matter what color you are …White,Brown,Yellow,Purple, or Black you should always be aware of how others will treat you. I call this racial consciousness. It’s been here since the beginning of time. It’s why white people don’t say the N-word. It’s the reason Asian people don’t call each other cracker. It’s the reason black people don’t talk back to police officers. There are undertones in American society that are learned and known because they have been taught and passed down form generation to generation.

But being at the African American Museum opened my eyes to the progression of African Americans in every century past. The stories I read and learned painted a picture of slavery back then. But the irony is, we as a minority group are still enslaved today in many ways. If you are a minority of any race you should acknowledge the facts. #1 People of color are significantly overrepresented in the U.S. prison population, making up more than 60 percent of the people behind bars. Despite being only 13 percent of the overall U.S.People of color are more likely to become entangled in the criminal justice system. #2 The so-called War on Drugs has disproportionately affected people of color.#3 People of color, particularly black males, face longer sentences than their white non-Hispanic counterparts for similar crimes. #4 During traffic stops, people of color are more likely to be searched than their white counterparts.#5 Students of color continue to face harsher punishments at school than their white non-Hispanic counterparts. #6 People of color are extremely overrepresented in the juvenile justice system.#7 Voting restrictions on the formerly incarcerated have disenfranchised millions of voters, particularly African Americans.

Seven-in-ten blacks said that blacks in their community were treated less fairly than whites in dealings with the police. In comparison, 37% of whites and 51% of Hispanics held that opinion.

Additionally, younger black men are more likely to report unjust treatment by the police. Nearly one-quarter of black males ages 18-34 said they had been treated unfairly by the police.


The Wild -Woman Challenge !

I’ve been doing a 7 day Wild Woman Challenge lately which was created by one of my favorite celebrities of all time Sarah Jakes Roberts. “Who is she? ” You ask. She’s TD Jakes daughter and an revolutionist for today’s women of faith. I found her last year, and I was drawn instantly to her anointing. But she’s created a 7-day Challenge for you. In this challenge you will discover what God is really trying to tell you. Then you will have the peace that you’re searching for.

In this challenge you will do a variety of challenging things but you must not forget to hop out of your comfort zone. He first day you will be creating a wild open space in your life , so you will write down what you need less of in life. Whether that be less stress,anxiety or depression even. Whatever it is that you need less I in your life . It will allow wild open space for God to move in your life . The second day you will evaluate relationships are they helping or hindering you and categorizing those relationships that are helping you grow closer to God versus the relationships that are keeping you bound and stagnant in life, the. Ask God to release those people in your life.

Day 3 consists of gratitude . Who are you thankful for. Who do you need to say thankyou to and has been there for you ? These God ordained people that have been helping you build and grow into who you are today…Send them a text and tell them you’re grateful for them.Day 4 consists of Worship. Many times we say “I don’t know what God is Trying to tell me” it’s because your perception hasn’t been ingulfed in the spirit and most times we can get back to our center through worship. So spend 24 hours just in worship and you will see and feel a shift and change . Today is Day 5 and I’m excited for what the rest of the Challenge holds for you and I.

He’d to Woman Evolve Tv for more ..



Rock Your Own Crown

Yesterday I had the privilege of speaking on the Wonder WOMAN panel at the I AM BEAUTIFUL Movement Event for 4th-12th grade girls. I feel so inspired by each little girl that came up to me and asked their questions. This generation of youth is far advanced in every realm and it was a beautiful thing to be able to encourage them to not compare themselves to these celebrities and to not read to much into the shaderoom because its all entertainment. I was able to motivate them to dream and  find their passion in this world.

Many  of the girls battled with anxiety and depression because of things haters spoke over their life. Negative thoughts only produce negative outcomes. When you let negative things take root in your heart and soul it only produces insecure walls and limitations for your growth and prosperity.  Don’t let those negative things weigh you down. When you dwell on things you can’t control, you become paranoid when in reality you should learn how to give it to God. Release it and let it go. Then you can grow and glow .

If no one ever told you…. You are a beautiful and bright shining star. You can be what you want to be. You can do what you want to do. I believe you have to be the change that you want to see in this world.


Speak that!

Two days ago I had the privilege of attending the Speak That Empowerment event in Dallas. There I was able to learn and glean from Dr. Lee Merrit who is the Civil Rights Activist who did Jordan Edwards case. He’s also responsible for putting away the first officer in 50 years to be indicted. He played a beginning role in Johnny Cochrins firm. He’s known nationwide for his efforts in the justice system and specializes in civil rights cases.

But, what was most shocking was how he came from such humble beginnings. As he shared with the audience, Lee was born from a 15 year old mother who was going to abort him, and saw his sonogram picture and decided to walk out of the clinic. He shared how his father was California’s most wanted gang member, a murderer and had nothing to do with his life. He shared how he had been kicked out of three  schools growing up and how they didn’t want to put him in any more. He shared how he was the first in his family to graduate anything. You see…Lee Merritt wasn’t supposed to be here. But for Gods grace he was able to keep going. He shared how he would be in rooms where no one looked like him, and how he had to beat the odds with knowledge in every debate he ever did in law school. But he never quit . He didn’t let fear paralyze his progress. Fear is just another emotion just like any other. When you’re fearful just know that means YOU ARE ALIVE. It was inspiring to me because I was fearful about starting my business. Will it be successful? Will I get sponsors? Will they take me seriously? Will others support my dream? God told me, “Just Do It. I’ll figure the rest out Monica.”

I pray you live a life free of limitations. You have limitless opportunities, and I pray you walk in your full potential.